By John Malott
She just wants my money! They said I wanted a trophy wife. Funny how people will create an entire story about two people they’ve never had a conversation with. 😂
Najlah and I have heard just about every version of it.
“She’s too young for you.”
“She’s just waiting for the life insurance.”
“He just wanted a beautiful younger Black woman.”
“It won’t last.”
Meanwhile, while everybody else was busy trying to figure out why we shouldn’t work, we were busy actually building something that does.
And here’s the part that really messes with people…
Najlah doesn’t need me to control her.
I don’t need her to shrink herself to make me comfortable.
We don’t have to look alike, think alike, be the same age, come from the same background or fit somebody else’s idea of what a marriage is “supposed” to look like.
She pushes me to eat better when I’d rather eat some bullshit. 😂
She drags my ass to the gym when I’d rather negotiate my way out of it.
She challenges me. She supports me. She makes me better.
And I give her the freedom to be exactly who she is.
Maybe that’s the part people don’t understand.
A healthy relationship isn’t two people owning each other. It’s two people choosing each other… over and over again.
So yes, keep doing the double take when we walk in.
We’re used to it. 😏
The funny part is…
the people who thought our differences would destroy us never considered that those differences might be exactly what made us stronger.
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